Adoption Story: Darin + Lois

It's not easy to hold fast to hope, stand on the truth about who God is, and keep trusting He is working even while you wait during your adoption. It IS easy to become discouraged, question if you'll ever be chosen, become frustrated, and want to give up while you're waiting to be chosen by an expectant mom making an adoption plan. Darin and Lois blew me away by their consistent trust in the Lord during their difficult adoption wait! The grace He poured out on them while they waited was so beautiful to see. I'm so happy to share some thoughts from Lois today about their adoption journey with me!

This journey of bringing home our baby girl has been a long, beautiful, and hard road. It began in May of 2018 when we first spoke with Katie and began our home study. We had thought we prepared ourselves to wait… and wait… and wait to hear a “yes.” There were many times, after hearing “no,” we had to remind ourselves that God is writing this story. And while the waiting and wishing were so hard, He did give us peace. It wasn’t always easy, but we truly knew we were doing what He wanted us to do. While we waited, we focused on enjoying the days of “just us two.” We spent a lot of those “just us” days dreaming of when it would be “three.” And yet we found ways of filling these days with fun and happiness and doing things we knew we wouldn’t be able to do with a child; building a better marriage and relationship with each other and with God.

We were officially home study approved in the beginning of July 2018 and were excited to be able to present to a mom who was due in just a few months. This was the first of many times we heard “she chose another family.” In spite of the disappointments, we continued feeling that we were on the right path. We knew God would someday bring our baby home. In July 2019, almost exactly a year after being home study approved, we finally heard the long-awaited “YES!” After hearing no so often, it seemed unreal to us that we were chosen. In the next few days, reality began to sink in and we began to get so so excited. She was due in November and that seemed so far away.

In the months of waiting for our baby girl to be born, we saw the heart of love in our daughter's birth mom for her unborn child. The courage she showed and the love she had for her, showed such a sacrificial and brave spirit. We truly felt God’s hand in this match and the long wait to hear a “yes” was worth every "no" we had to hear first.


We see God’s fingerprints over and over in our journey to bring home our daughter. We are grateful that He led us to Katie and her prayers, encouragement and advice have been invaluable. We treasure the memories Darin and I made during the many months of waiting, and we see how it brought us closer together and created a better marriage. And learning more of God’s love and His care through difficult times has deepened our relationship with Him. 

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