Thursday, June 25, 2015

Adoption Story: Hayes and Kara

Hayes and Kara live their lives all out for Jesus. Every time I’ve interacted with Kara, I’ve left encouraged and reminded of Christ’s worth and beauty. From the get-go, this couple’s adoption journey was about Him and not about themselves. It was incredible to watch.

Hayes and Kara got started with CAC in July of last year. They began working on their home study while I got started on their profile and in December they were ready to apply with agencies. At the beginning of February they presented their profile to an expectant mama and she loved them. They were matched!

Kara sweetly referred to this expectant mama as “my new bff.”  While they prepared for the baby coming soon, she and Hayes put their focus on loving this woman, showing her the care and compassion of Jesus with their listening ears and kind words.

As their adorable son entered the world, they continued to stand firm in their commitment to love no matter what. When all around there was stress and heightened emotions and exhaustion and drama, they looked to their Father and they chose love. They stood firm on their conviction that this adoption was not about them, but about their amazing God. They tenderly cared for their son’s birth family, beautifully walking out Philippians 2:3-5: "Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus…"


Hayes and Kara, thank you for giving me a picture of what it looks like to truly reflect God’s heart in adoption. The way you've loved your son’s birth family so deeply and beautifully takes my breath away. 
(Professional Photos credit of Christina Rosario Photography.)
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For more information about Domestic Adoption, contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com for an info packet today! I would be honored to help you during your adoption journey.

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Wednesday, May 13, 2015

CAC: Why We're So Thankful We Used a Consultant


When Josh and I got ready to adopt back in 2012, the Lord led us to Christian Adoption Consultants to guide us along the way. As we look back on our journey, we cannot imagine having walked through adoption without our adoption consultant!


Here are some of the many reasons that we thank God for the role that Christian Adoption Consultants played in our adoption story:

1) Decreased the Risks
Domestic adoption has some risks.  While all adoptions have risks, CAC helps their clients sort through the level of risk involved with each situation and gives invaluable information to help adoptive parents make informed decisions in their adoption journey.  CAC works primarily with "safe states" that are adoption friendly (where consents are generally signed in 24-72 hrs.).  

2) Exposure to multiple agencies and attorneys 
Working with multiple agencies helps you have more exposure to more potential adoption situations. Instead of being one family in a line with many at only one agency, working with CAC makes it possible for you to learn about more adoption situations and so have the opportunity to show your profile more frequently. (Many of these agencies waive their application fees for CAC families so you aren't paying unnecessary fees to an agency you might not necessarily be matched through!) Out of the hundreds of agencies and attorneys out there, it's difficult to know which are working ethically and are in need of more adoptive families. CAC has done that legwork for you! 

3) Significant decrease in wait time
Working with only one agency means that you are most likely one of many clients waiting in a long line to adopt.  In a traditional approach of only working with one agency to adopt a newborn domestically, many adoptive couples wait 2 years or more before they are matched with an expectant mom.  Because CAC helps you find multiple good agencies and attorneys who are often in need of adoptive families, the wait time when you're working with CAC can be significantly decreased.  As in, most CAC families are matched within 3-12 months after applying with multiple agencies. We applied to agencies at the beginning of June 2012 and brought our son home in August.

4)  Help from someone who is genuinely knowledgable AND really understands.
CAC's consultants have either worked extensively with expectant mothers in crisis pregnancies or and/or adopted before themselves. They know what it's like to adopt because they've been through the process personally (sometimes multiple times).  They are an incredible wealth of knowledge and information (which is great)!  They've helped over 900 couples adopt.  But their knowledge is coupled with a heart that has experienced the joys and challenges of adoption.  Because of that heart, they are extremely quick to respond to questions from clients (no waiting weeks to hear from them!).  Because of that heart, they pray regularly for their clients.  Because of that heart, they are a constant encouragement and help to adoptive families.  

5)  Benefits that far exceed the cost
Yes, hiring an adoption consultant isn't free. But in our opinion, the benefits to working with CAC far exceeded the cost.  In the grand scheme of adoption expenses, it really isn't a lot to hire someone who will make a priceless difference in your adoption journey.  We received extremely helpful and well-informed answers to countless questions.  We were connected with wonderful attorneys and agencies.  We were encouraged, supported, and prayed for every single step of the way. We were directed to awesome adoption grants and loans. We were blessed with having someone who was really on our side (much like a midwife who coaches you all through your pregnancy, labor, and delivery). And we joined an incredible community of fellow adoptive families who became fast friends and continue to be a source of information and support.

To be really honest, we feel that we got way more than we paid for with CAC. We had such an incredible experience with our consultant, Tracie. I am so thankful for the opportunity I now have to help families in the same way that we were helped. 

Spring into summer with CAC's May 13-15th discount! Any new families who sign up then will receive $100 off of our full service consulting packages. (This discount does not apply to our self serve consulting package, returning families, or special needs consulting packages).
Please contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com for more information today!

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Monday, May 11, 2015

Why CAC Could Be A Great Fit


Last month, Christian Adoption Consultants had 33 families grow through adoptions. 20 of our families were matched with a brave and courageous expectant mother and 13 babies were born into their adoptive families. That's over a baby a day!

Over the last nine years, hundreds of families have chosen Christian Adoption Consultants to help them on their journey to adopt. Our passionate and Christ-centered approach offers support and guidance to adoptive couples.

Here's what Linnea said about why they loved CAC:

"if you feel like you could use a guide, a support-network, an advocate, a counselor, an encourager, and a prayer warrior on your team as you take your adoption journey, then I recommend Christian Adoption Consultants. The personal attention that Katie gives us has meant so much to us. She’s been through this. She knows how we feel. She’s feeling it with us again. She’s praying for us. She’s helping us. She’s rooting for us."

Christian Adoption Consultants wants to help your family adopt by offering a $100 discount. Any new families who sign up between May 13-15th will receive $100 off of our full service consulting packages. (This discount does not apply to our self serve consulting package, returning families, or special needs consulting packages).

Want more info on Christian Adoption Consultants?  
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Please contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com today for more information! I would love to help you as you consider if CAC is a good fit for your adoption journey.

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Sunday, May 3, 2015

Adoption Story: John and Linnea


I met this lovely couple over eight years ago and they live close by me so they have an extra special place in my heart! It's been such an honor for me to serve their family on their adoption journey. Their story is one of faith and of beautiful surrender.

At the beginning of October 2013 John and Linnea got started with Tracie at Christian Adoption Consultants. They were so eager and ready to bring home a baby sister for their little ones. They hoped it would be a swift process, but God had other plans in mind.

Their home study wasn't ready to go until April 2014. Then there were many difficult "no's" and more waiting that simply did not make sense. Yet, they continued to fight for faith, praying for grace to lay down their own time-line and fighting to surrender to God's good plans.

Then, after about seven months of presenting and waiting for God's "yes," their time finally came. Linnea shares more:

"When Gideon was going to fight the Midianites, God told him to reduce his army to just 300 men, so that he could know that it was God who won the victory, not the armies. When we presented our profile to our birth mother, I felt like God was telling me to reduce my armies, to send away the things I would like to control -  like what kind of genetics my child would have, what prenatal vitamins she would benefit from, what substances she would be protected from, what kind of nourishment she would enjoy. He was telling us to step out in faith and let Him fight the battle for our baby. We presented to a birth mother with significant challenges. We had a long match (4 months) to wait. Our armies were sent home, and God secured the victory. God answered our prayers with a beautiful healthy baby girl! We praise the Lord for His faithfulness in every detail of our adoption journey thus far, and we count on Him to lead and guide us in the coming years."


God showed Himself victorious in their surrender, weaving a thousand details perfectly together to bring them their much loved daughter.

John and Linnea, my heart has been so encouraged by watching your faith and desire to live for His plan and not your own. You truly have walked out 2 Corinthians 5:15, "and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised." I'm excited to watch God's good plans continue to unfold in the story of your precious little girl!

**Pictures taken by the incredibly talented and fun Misha Seger. **

Contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com for an info packet today! I would be honored to help you during your adoption journey.





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Thursday, April 23, 2015

I Don't Know What I'm Doing


I just turned 34. We had a great family day together on my birthday. Josh surprised me by taking the day off, we went out for an awesome breakfast, and we drove into the city for a day at the zoo. The kids presented me with special homemade gifts they'd been working on for days, and I finally got to watch the season finale of "Parenthood." I thought about how incredibly kind God has been to give me this family of mine and I wondered how in the world I suddenly turned 34 when I still feel like a kid. That's the happy stuff of the day.

But you know what else went on during my birthday? I thought about how half the time, I don't know what I'm doing.  I don't. You know...as a wife, as a mom, as a friend.  (Can you have a midlife crisis at age 34? If so, I may have had a mini-one in my brain on my birthday.) Half the time I really just feel like I am falling flat on my face. I don't mean as in "woe is me, I am such a failure" but as in, "I want to do this well but I'm pretty sure I'm not" kind of thing.

34 years and I often wake up feeling a bit disoriented. Four little lives depend on me each day for food and hugs and education; I want to love them better than I am. What about my marriage? What would that zealous 20-something me say if she saw me as the wife I am now? I want to help and encourage and support my husband but I still get cranky and critical and difficult to live with some days. And what about my friendships? I want to love whole-heartedly and build relationships the way Jesus would want me to. But how do I do that while still faithfully pouring out my time and heart to be a devoted wife and mama? I don't know. A lot of the time I really just feel like I don't know what I'm doing. It can feel disorienting and frustrating because I want to walk around feeling like, "It's good. I've got this," while I'm really feeling like, "What in the world am I doing? How do I do this better?"

But maybe I feel like I don't know what I'm doing because I don't. And maybe no one does? There's a lot I don't know. I don't know how to be a perfect wife. I don't know how to be a perfect mom. I don't know how to be a perfect friend. I don't know what I'm doing half the time. But I do know the One who always knows exactly what He's doing. He is perfect and He is enough.

God knows exactly what He's doing with me. He knows exactly what He's doing through my feeble attempts to love my husband well. He knows exactly what He's doing through my messy day-to-day flawed mama-ing of four precious people I get to call my kids. He knows what He's doing in my less than stellar moments as a busy friend. He knows what He's doing through me. He's got it all together. He knows that I don't. And He loves me even in my sinful, messed-upness.

So I've decided that's what I'm going to fight to preach to myself this year-that He knows what He's doing even though I don't. I want to be at rest in His sufficiency.

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Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Adoption Story: Grant and Natalie



Honestly, I think these pictures alone communicate loudly and clearly about the beauty that God has woven into Grant and Natalie's lives through adoption! But it's also too good of a story not to share some details, so here you go! (Photos courtesy of Lindsay Williams Photography):

Grant and Natalie were homestudy ready and had been praying for direction in their adoption journey back in November. As they prayed, they heard about CAC from other clients of mine and felt like CAC was God's answer to their prayers for guidance.

One of the aspects of adoption that we discussed right away was the area of openness. As they asked questions, I shared with them about how my own thinking had drastically changed in this area over the years. Though they had hesitations, they committed to pray about it and I prayed for them as well.

A couple weeks later during Thanksgiving weekend I sent them a potential adoption situation from an agency; a courageous woman was making an adoption plan for her son who was due in the spring. This expectant mama desired ongoing contact with whatever adoptive family she chose. Grant and Natalie prayed some more, opening their hearts to however God would lead them. They felt drawn to the situation and knew God was directing them to present. The only problem was that my entire family had the stomach flu and their profile wasn't quite ready since they had just signed on with CAC. But God had a plan that could not be stopped by the flu or anything else! I worked late at night amidst nasty germs and quickly rushed their profile just in time for them to present. A couple days later Natalie called me with the incredible news; they had been chosen to be this baby's adoptive parents!

For the next four months I watched in awe as Grant and Natalie poured out their hearts to love this expectant mama. They knew that there are no guarantees before a baby is born and papers are officially signed, but they chose to hold nothing back. At one point the expectant mama texted Natalie asking, "Are you still going to pray for me this much after the baby is born?" Natalie assured her that they were absolutely committed to praying for her and loving her for the rest of their lives; they considered her a part of their family.

And then the day finally arrived! The child that they had spent years waiting for, hoping for, and praying for was suddenly in their arms. His life is a story of love and I know that Grant and Natalie will continue telling him for the rest of his days about the God who wrote each beautiful page.

You can read more about Natalie on her blog, Raising Arrows. I am looking forward to watching God use Natalie's beautiful heart for adoption as she works with me! Natalie recently began working for Christian Adoption Consultants as an Adoption Advocate. She will be spreading the word about adoption and about the benefits of working with an adoption consultant.

Contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com for an info packet today! I would be honored to help you during your adoption journey.

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Monday, April 13, 2015

Adoptive Parents Talk About Finances (Part 2)


Yesterday I shared some thoughts from adoptive parents, answering the question, "What would you say to someone considering adoption but is concerned about the financial aspect?" Here are some more answers they shared:

"We were in the same position and gave God our 'yes' anyway. He provided every penny. We were blown away when we added up how many pennies it really was! He is bigger than our limitations and has resources beyond our own. It is a faith journey of the most amazing and rewarding kind." ~ Sylvia

"Yes, we didn't have the money either...but it was our heart's desire and we felt like God was saying, 'trust me!' We learned so much and He provided in huge ways!" ~ Shauna

"I'd say go for it. It's just money. While we incurred a lot of debt with our most recent adoption, since, I've landed freelance work that covers 1/4 (and maybe more) of the cost. God always provides. He's faithful." ~ Chris

"We've been there and we didn't have the money either but I was and am amazed at how God made things became available. It seems like so much money and it is. However, if you think about it, (not that I'm comparing but giving perspective) the process is the approximate price of a vehicle. This is God's child for your family. There is no price on the joy that will bring to your family and to God!" ~Amber

"I totally believe that God provides. There are many practical ways that God helps us through fund raising, matching funds and the like!" ~ Jami


"Satan likes us to be discouraged. He does not want these children in homes that will proclaim the name of Jesus. He wants to discourage people from the get go. It will take work, it is not easy.... But God has given us feet to climb these mountains. Plus -- because we are adopting so many have been blessed by being given the opportunity to give through our adventure .... many want to give, they want to help and they love being able to be a part of adoption by helping a family willing to adopt." ~ Kristi 


Contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com for more information about domestic adoption! I would be honored to help you during your adoption journey.

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