Thursday, August 21, 2014

Isn't There Another Way?

***Reposting this today in hopes that it will encourage those of you walking through some hard in your adoption process.***

Last night my mind was running through all of the paperwork for adoption grants yet to be applied to, then to all of the paperwork yet to be filled out when we apply to agencies, then to all the paperwork that I don't even know about that will likely happen after being matched with a birthmom.  As I was mentally picturing all of these papers yet to be filled out and all of the papers that we've already done, well...I felt tired.  Then I thought, "Isn't there an easier way?"

God instantly brought to mind Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane, staring into the cup of God's wrath that awaited Him as He looked ahead to the cross.  And He pleaded, “My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.”  (Matthew 26:39)  But He knew there wasn't another way.  Our sin completely separated us from God.  It was either Jesus endure incredible suffering and agony being hung on the cross, taking on God's full punishment for sin or God's children could not be a part of His family forever.  There was no other way.

I'm not trying to compare adoption paper work to the crucifixion of Jesus, believe me.  But, I think the Lord wanted to show me two things through remembering this.  First, no amount of suffering I go through compares to the suffering that Jesus went through for me.  He was still completely human while He was completely God.  So He completely felt every bit of that excruciating pain and suffering.  It wasn't lessened because He was sovereign and knew what was coming next.  And that pain?  Being utterly separated from His father and having every sinful thought, action, and word heaped on Himself, bearing the guilt and full weight of that sin even though He had never done anything wrong, and taking the punishment for it all...that is a pain unimaginable.

My weariness at all this paperwork?  It is real and it is hard but it does not compare to all that Christ went through for me.  I will never know what it's like to have every single sin of every single person put on me.  I will never know what it's like to then experience God's wrath and condemnation against all of that evil that I never actually did.  I will never know it because Jesus suffered in my place.

Secondly, adoption is not easy.  It wasn't easy for God to adopt His children into His family.  It wasn't easy for Him to send His Son to the cross.  It wasn't easy and pain free for Jesus to be crucified.  God's adoption of His children came at a great cost to Himself. Is it any wonder that there would be some hard things for us as we're in the process of adopting? 

So when I picture the paperwork that awaits me, I want to be amazed at what Jesus has done to make me God's child.  I want to stand in awe as I remember that there was no other way.  And I want to thank God that Jesus didn't give up in the midst of the hard but said, "Not my will, but Yours be done." 
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For information about how I can help you in your adoption journey, please contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com.

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Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Congratulations, Eddie and Anna.

I will never forget the first conversation I had with sweet Anna. She was on her way back from a full (and probably tiring!) school field-trip that she had chaperoned, but Anna was anything but tired. This girl was bursting with excitement about getting started with their adoption journey and she was so much fun to talk to! That same incredible enthusiasm, passion, and hope in God radiated from Anna throughout their adoption process.

Knowing that adoption had already been in their hearts for quite a while, I so hoped that Eddie and Anna would not have to wait long to have their child in their arms. I remember emailing Anna saying something like, "Not every adoption happens quickly, but I'm going to pray that God would bless you guys with a fast process!" Meanwhile, Anna was also praying that the Lord would send them a summer baby. And that's exactly what He did. His timing was perfect.

Eddie and Anna, you guys are amazing and I have loved watching God at work in and through you during this adoption. Thank you for letting me be a part of it!

Read more of their story reposted with permission from Tracie Loux's blog below:

Every story longs to be told.
Every journey longs be lived.
This family put their feet to the journey, and watched as God told an amazing story through their lives.
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A little boy was born.
His mother made a very brave decision because she believed that though she was not ready to be a parent, that her son’s life was a treasure. 
She reached out for help.
This precious family said yes to a whirlwind and rushed to meet their son.PART_1407615886174_IMG958342

Adoption is complicated.
It is bittersweet.
It’s never the same story. But every story is deep and full. 
When Eddie and Anna contacted us in May, they knew it was time for them to get ready and they had dreams of a summer baby. Every time a possible situation came up they prayed and asked the Lord to lead the journey. 
I called Anna on August 2nd, and said, “Anna there’s a little boy. He needs a family. He’s already born and I need to know if you can travel tomorrow.” 
Within hours, Eddie and Anna had booked flights and were making childcare arrangements for their children.
Every story. Every single time. A miracle.
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For more information about adoption, please contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com. I'd love to help you on your adoption journey!

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Congratulations, John and Meghan!

One of my favorite parts of working with couples in the adoption process is creating their family profile.  I love the glimpse it gives me into their lives and it's also a lot of fun! 
While I was still working on John and Meghan's profile they heard about a baby that needed a family. My husband, Josh, and I had the privilege of Skyping with John and Meghan and praying for them as they processed the whirlwind. It was such a sweet time that I will always treasure.

This couple has an unmistakable love and commitment for one another that has been so beautiful for me to see! They walked through every part of this faith-stretching adoption together as a team. From the moment they heard about this possible situation all the way until their son was in their arms, they leaned on one another and on their faithful God. 


Here is the rest of their story reposted from Tracie Loux's adoption blog:

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In February, this amazing couple contacted us for help on their adoption journey. They were matched just a little over a month later.
But they would discover that being “matched” was more of a roller coaster than they had ever dreamed it would be.
In May, it appeared that this adoption would not happen.
So we began to consider other potential matches for this couple.
They were not matched.
Because God knew more than our human wisdom could begin to hold on to.
In late June, the child that they had hoped to adopt was born. They were not called to come as they had hoped and dreamed.
It appeared this child would not be their son.
But God…..
A few days after his birth, they would get another call that would change their lives forever.
They were asked to come.
They were asked to take a little boy into their arms and call him son.
And they did.
With joy.
With gratitude.
With an every increasing understanding that the ways of the Lord are good and perfect.
And the stories He weaves are wrought with both joy and pain because through it all He builds more of Himself in us.
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For more information about how we can help you in your adoption journey, please contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com!

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Saturday, July 12, 2014

Congratulations, Joshua and Mary Beth!

I'm not going to pretend I understand everything about our adoption story. I especially don't know why God chose to have us walk through some heartache before wildly blessing us with our baby boy. But I do know that our tears have given me a unique blessing of the opportunity to compassionately pray for, encourage, and walk alongside couples experiencing similar adoption heartbreak. That's what initially connected me with Joshua and Mary Beth. And now their day of rejoicing has come!!!


When I got to know Joshua and Mary Beth through Christian Adoption Consultants, a couple of things struck me right away. First, their desire to love even when it hurts was unmistakable. The fact that they'd had some hard waves in their adoption journey did not keep them from opening wide their hearts to love big. And next, their determination to pray for and love their baby's birthmom was brilliantly on display. Assisting Tracie Loux in their adoption journey was an incredible privilege and I'm so thankful to know this beautiful couple. And goodness! Both of their daughters are just adorable!

More of their story is re-posted below from Tracie's blog with permission:
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In a moment. A breath. Life.
A destiny comes alive.
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A little girl becomes a daughter.
A man and a woman choose to become father and mother.
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A blonde haired, blue-eyed beauty, becomes a sister with joy in her smile.
A dark eyed, raven haired tiny wonder will be loved and cherished forever.
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In February, as a Valentine’s Day gift to themselves, Joshua and Mary Beth started working with me.
Their hearts were flung wide open to whatever God had for their family.
On May 20th, they were MATCHED. An amazing woman looked at their profile and said, “Their life is obviously faith based and it is obvious that the two of them share a great love. I love how they met! I also love how they keep in contact with their other child’s birth mom and how they speak of her with such love and honor. I am 100% sure of them. I would like to talk to them this week.”
And that is how a match is made.
And this little wonder was born on July 3rd. Another fast adoption!
And this is what Mary Beth shared about the amazing woman who gave their daughter the gift of life,“We love E’s birth mom. She is brave and strong. She had one goal in mind from the the very beginning – to give her daughter a bright future no matter how hard it would be on her. She was determined and made selfless decisions that have changed the course of E’s life. When we talked to her over the phone for the first time, Josh and I quickly decided that our mission during this whole process was to give her as much love and support along the way as we could. We watched a young girl walk this road before, and we knew the mountain of emotion and pain that birth mom would have to climb and we wanted to walk right along side of her the whole way.”
Mary Beth has given me permission to share the full story from her own personal blog, feel free to pop over to “Be Joyful In All Things”.
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For more information about domestic adoption, please contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com!

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Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Congratulations, David and Amber!


Dave and Amy adopted their daughter a couple of months before Josh and I brought home our little guy. I was thrilled when I found out earlier this year that I'd be assisting their dear friends, David and Amber, as they began working with their CAC adoption consultant, Tracie Loux.

As I started to get to know them through working on their family profile, I was blown away by David and Amber's selflessness. They clearly were eager to add to their family through the gift of adoption, but their focus wasn't on having a baby. Their focus was really on seeking to trust in God's timing and on loving and praying for the woman that would be their little one's birthmom. 



My faith has been strengthened so much as I watched this sweet couple walk out true Christ-reflecting love. They had a breathtaking trust in His loving plans. "We want His will to be done, whatever that may be," Amber texted me multiple times. Their story is beautiful and so is their son!

More of their whirlwind journey is re-posted below with permission from Tracie's blog:
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It’s TORNADO SEASON and many adoptions happen much like a WHIRLWIND!
Everything is still and quiet and then BAM, it changes in a moment.
David and Amber started with CAC in mid-February, their home study was completed June 17th, and on June 26th they heard about a baby that needed a family. They said, “YES” and waited.
On Monday, they found out they were MATCHED, and that they had to get on a plane pronto because baby was on his way!
The social worker with the agency told them that she had maybe only seen such a strong, instant connection like that between an adoptive family and a birth family once before. She said she was just amazed by the connection!
They welcomed this little man, and the amazing woman who gave him the gift of life,  into their lives and nothing will ever be the same.
I am so honored to have been part of this family’s journey. They have walked through some incredible up’s and down’s in the past few days and they have surrendered the journey to the Lord with every step.
His ways are perfect and His plans are good!
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For more information about how we can help you in your domestic adoption journey, please contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com!

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Congratulations, CJ and Andrea!

I had the great privilege of assisting CJ and Andrea in their adoption journey (alongside their adoption consultant, Tracie Loux). From my very first phone call with Andrea, I could tell that they were incredibly ready. They had prayed about adoption, talked about adoption, and thought about adoption for quite a while before starting their journey and were so ready for God to bring them their child. They really hoped that their wait would be short. And short it was!

I finished creating CJ and Andrea's family profile (the book that expectant mothers see when deciding which family they want to raise their little one) in May right before their homestudy was completed. Less than a month after they sent in their applications to agencies, they got a call about the little one that was soon to be their son.

I had the honor of praying with them over the phone the night before they flew out to meet their baby. I will never forget their sheer delight and awe at God's beautiful, mysterious ways, and I will never forget the depth of love and gratitude they expressed for their child's birthmom. Their hearts were just as full of love for her as they were full of love for their baby boy. 

CJ and Andrea, it was such a privilege to watch God's beautiful plans for your adoption story unfold.

More of their story is re-posted below with permission from Tracie's blog:

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A little boy was born. He needed a family to come quickly.
A beautiful couple received a call.
They said “yes”.
Their “yes” was met with a, “Come now. Come get your son."
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They took him into their arms and called him their own.
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They became his safe place.
It is a miracle every single time.
One God writes in the pages of history.
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C.J. and Andrea contacted us in early April, by late May their home study was complete, and they put their applications in the mail on May 29th!
Last week, they were on vacation near the city where this little man was born.
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They finished up their vacation and got home just in time to get AN AMAZING PHONE CALL that had them repacking and headed back to get him!
I can’t even imagine how much excitement there is at home right now, as these precious little ones wait for their new baby brother to come home!
Congratulations C.J. and Andrea! What a wild ride. So happy God was leading the charge!
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For more information about domestic adoption, please contact me at katief@christianadoptionconsultants.com

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Thursday, June 5, 2014

Is Using An Adoption Consultant Worth The Money (Guest Post)

I am so blessed to be able to watch God work in the lives of couples pursuing adoption. Mary Beth and Josh have such hearts of love and faith. They were with their agency for a while before deciding to widen their options by starting with Christian Adoption Consultants. It's a delight for me to serve them alongside their consultant, Tracie Loux. Mary Beth kindly wrote this letter to those of you considering whether or not it's worth the money to work with CAC.

Dear friends considering CAC-

My husband and I came to to the conclusion that we had to take the adoption of our second child a step further when our home agency started offering reimbursement for families who would hire consultants. We were defeated, frustrated, and ready to grow our family. We shared our heartbreak over this process with our small group at church and immediately a friend suggested looking into CAC. It did not take much convincing after reading the success stories and talking with Tracie.

Working with Tracie and Katie has been exactly what our hearts needed. Their level of professionalism blew us away. The adoption world holds a lot of question marks and uncertainty, but these two women find a way to answer your questions, check in frequently, and help speak to your heart during the wait. Their faith and trust in The Lord throughout the process has encouraged us and reminded us that God has the perfect baby in mind for OUR family. Without their help, I am not sure we would have endured this road to adopting our second child much longer.

If I could encourage someone who isn't sure hiring a consultant is worth the money, I would tell them absolutely positively this is the best money you can spend to help build your family. Yes, adoption is expensive. Yes, this is one more added expense, but it is the best way to go hands down. From the exposure your family receives on a weekly basis to the care and concern from the consultants, this a must for families serious about adoption. This is an investment our family made that we will never regret and 
                                                                   I hope that you can do the same.

Thank you, MaryBeth! I can't wait to see all of God's beautiful plans for your family continue to unfold.
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